You know how people say if you want something done, ask a busy person? If you want sympathy, ask someone who is going through terrible times.
My sister has cancer, bad. Yet when I mention hoping that my new medication will work on my ear ache, unlike the last stuff, her sympathetic response floors me. In the midst of treatments, hospital stays, blood transfusions, my minor aliment gets sympathy?
And she’s worried about how our brother will cope with seeing her without hair. She doesn’t need to worry about us. Expressing emotions, even sad ones, is rarely a mistake. It’s the stuff that isn’t expressed that gives the greatest regrets.